Last week I was feeling positive about my writing. But this week, I’ve been feeling quite negative.
I’m just over halfway through the first round of rewrites on my work in progress. After receiving feedback from a mentor, I’ve been strengthening character motivations, adding depth and texture and building on themes. Everything was progressing smoothly. But then I dipped into a sudden crisis of confidence. My mind was awash with irrational thoughts. You are wasting your life. The person who gave you feedback was just being nice. No one cares about your book.
This is the rollercoaster of writing a book (and could easily be applied to any creative pursuit). One second you’re cruising up the hill of productivity but then suddenly you’re charging down the steep decline of failure and going through the loop of self-doubt before coming to an abrupt halt at the procrastination station.
But rollercoasters are meant to be fun. They can be daunting, especially if you’re afraid of heights, but the thrill of flying through the air upside down and the excitement of your stomach dropping as you fall from a great height is worth that moment of trepidation before you get in and pull your lapbar down. So let’s try and flip this around.
The steep decline of failure
My goal was to finish rewrites by the end of January. Although there’s still over a week left before the end of the month, it’s not enough time to achieve my goal. I allowed procrastination to eat away precious minutes I could have been dedicating to my work in progress. I feel like I’ve failed.
But instead of screaming in terror, I remember the inspiration behind Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott – breaking down long projects into smaller parts. This makes goals more achievable and less intimidating. And instead of looking at my task as ten chapters left to review, I should be congratulating myself for already reviewing and rewriting 20 chapters!
As Roy Peter Clark says in Writing Tools: 55 Essential Strategies for Every Writer: “Tiny drops of writing became puddles that become rivulets that become streams that become deep ponds.” I’m somewhere between rivulets and streams and by setting realistic and achievable goals, I’ll hopefully soon have a body of water like Lake Baikal (which, with a maximum depth of 5,387 feet, is the deepest lake in the world).
The loop of self-doubt
Almost every writer/blogger has a post about self-doubt. Because we’ve all been there. There’s even a great story about imposter syndrome from Neil Gaiman that went viral after author Alan Baxter turned it into a meme.
Dorothea Brande wrote Becoming a Writer in 1934 and said that every writer goes through the despair of wondering whether they have anything worth saying. What will readers think when they read my work? Or perhaps they’ve read the work of a genius writer and believe the difference between the work of the genius and their own writing is so large, they will never amount to anything. It’s reassuring to hear all writers suffer from self-criticism, but these negative thoughts can be debilitating. So what do we do when they have us in a twist?
Roy Peter Clark recommends making a list of the negative things you’re telling yourself – then burn the list and flush the ashes. Or Anne Lamott suggests isolating each negative voice, one by one, and imagining the person as a mouse. Then pick up the mouse by the tail and drop it into a mason jar, securing the lid tightly shut.
I have two choices. Keep going or give up. And if I’m going to keep going, then I have to expect that every now and then my confidence will throw a zero-gravity roll my way. And when that happens, I’ll do the mason jar thing.
Procrastination station
Then there’s all the time spent procrastinating – again, something most, if not all writers do. For example, my own writing process can be broken down by the following pie chart.
Roy Peter Clark asks the following question about procrastination: “What would happen if we viewed this period of delay not as something destructive, but as something constructive, even necessary? What if we found a new name for procrastination? What if we called it rehearsal?” For example, talking about writing with another writer is a great way to work through ideas. Or next time I’m staring into space, I can plan out ideas for my story my head.
Like a roller coaster, the process of writing a book has ups and downs. When you’re on the downward spiral of negative thinking, try these for positive g-forces – set achieveable goals, keep going, and eventually you will get the words down.
Buy Writing Tools by Roy Peter Clark.
Buy Becoming a Writer by Dorothea Brande.
Buy Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott.
Hahah I love that your ‘Procrastination station’ has a significant slice of ‘feed the cat’ hahaha. Mine’s like, feed the cat, find the cat, save the cat, play with the cat, clean up after the cat, pat the cat… just absolutely endless. I also have a really big ‘animal video watcing’ section in my pie chart LOL.
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Cats are very distracting, aren’t they? Thanks so much for reading and commenting on my post.
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Alyssa, I love this post. It’s such a true representation of what every writer goes through, written in a humorous and endearing way. I’m currently at procrastination station, sounds so much better than just plain procrastination 😆 my pie chart, well, I don’t think I really want to know what it looks like! Hope you’re climbing the roller coaster high soon x
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Thanks Sam! I spend most of my time at the procrastination station and I think I’m a bit too comfortable there! Oh sorry, I mean I’m “rehearsing”. I can imagine your pie chart would be very complicated with taking your kids here there and everywhere. That certainly adds another layer to things.
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Great post, and reminder that we all go through the same highs and lows. Would definitely rather a roller coaster than a merry-go-round 🙂
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Thanks Nat! I used to love the swinging chairs ride – so you remember that? Although that would not be a great writing process either… 😆
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Gosh, you’ve written every writer’s journey. The bursts of self-confidence and the plummets of self-doubt. We all have them, and I don’t think they ever leave. Sometimes, I wonder why we put ourselves through it, but then, the rewards! Not just publication, but the fact we’ve created something that wasn’t there before. Moreover, it’s something worthwhile, something that brings pleasure to others, or that moves others. Something which gives our lives meaning. That feeling beats everything. Keep going! x
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Thanks Louise! Your advice means a lot as you’ve been there, done the hard yards and now have something amazing to show for it. x
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Brilliant post Alyssa. Thank you for sharing your own vulnerabilities in such an entertaining and insightful way. You’re right, we all have these feelings and thoughts, but as we say in yoga/meditation, don’t take those thoughts on board, just acknowledge them and let them float by.
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Thanks for your advice on dealing with negative thoughts, Kirsty! This is actually really helpful advice to me right now and next time I’m feeling that way I will remember to let those thoughts float by.
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Reblogged this on Flowers On Parade and commented:
I love the outlook on this. I find this rollercoaster present in many of us who love writing but tend to suffer from quite a bit of self-doubt (me especially!).
this can be a huge deal when writing anything, I’m reminded of how I felt during university creative writing pieces and assignments.
I also love the idea that “it’s not being lazy, it’s being demotivated”…really helps out and I’m certain we all start out well-intentioned 🙂
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Thanks for reading and reblogging! I’m pleased it resonated with you but I hope you’re able to overcome your self doubt soon. All the best.
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Great post, Alyssa. Love the pie chart!
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Thanks for reading and commenting, Lisa!
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I really enjoyed this post, Alyssa! The pie chart was inspired, but you’ve nailed the roller coaster feelings of a writer perfectly.
I hope you’re back to enjoying ‘cruising up the hill of productivity’!
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Thanks, Marie! Still stopped over at the procrastination station at the moment. Just refuelling for the next incline. 😉
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Procrastination is unfairly maligned. I think it has lots of positives going for it. Good luck with the next roller coaster incline.
(In real life, I can’t get enough of roller coasters at theme parks – the more daring the better. Wish the writing roller coaster was as much fun!)
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Confession – I’m scared of rollercoasters! And I used to work at a theme park!
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I am very fortunate that one of my two children is a roller-coasterholic like me (and now tall enough to pass the height test) 😆
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I’ll be minding the bags.
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I can’t even imagine how hard it must be to write a book (that’s why I’m hooked on short stories, I suspect!). And you know, I wonder about the ‘staring into space’ part – whether a lot of that is necessary – either for nutting of details of what we’re going to write, or even just resting our brains from the constant barrage of information. So it’s probably not wasted time at all.
As far as self-doubt, I have shares in that stuff. I feel it every single time I start a story (and then midway through, and then when I’m editing, etc etc!). I’ve read that only dodgy writers don’t have doubts so maybe it’s just a sign that we’re discerning and we want to reach a certain standard?!
Wishing you a wonderful and productive year, however you get there 🙂
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Thanks for your comments, Fiona! I agree, we are very ‘non-dodgy’ and doubts can be healthy as long as they are kept in perspective and we don’t allow them to spiral out of control.
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I find sometimes ‘spaceship trance’ is when your thoughts really develop, 😼💭 and then when you leasst expect it- a moment of clarity ! 😺
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Thanks CatCat. You always know what to say.
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